What happens when a bisexual man stops apologizing for existing—and instead steps fully into his power? In this episode of Embracing All of Me, Australian researcher, HIV advocate, and bodybuilder Steven Spencer shows us exactly what that transformation looks like.

Steven grew up on a 300-acre cattle farm in rural Australia, surrounded by conservatism and silence. Yet when he finally came out in his mid-twenties, something miraculous happened: his entire family followed him out of the closet! Imagine that for one second. Brothers. Sister. Even his father. Each had been carrying their own quiet truths, waiting for someone to make honesty feel possible. Steven became that someone for his own family.

But liberation didn’t come without rupture. Just three months after coming out, Steven was diagnosed with HIV. The news landed between his birthday and Christmas, a devastating moment that might have broken someone else.

Instead, Steven decided it would be a beginning. He started treatment immediately, reached an undetectable viral load within six weeks, and discovered a truth that reshaped his life: HIV, in 2024, is a medical condition—stigma is the real threat.

One statistic underscores his mission: bisexual men are less likely to test regularly and less likely to know about HIV-prevention tools than gay men, despite equal or greater need. Steven refused to accept that inequity. A chance drunken conversation in a bar with the head of Australia’s leading HIV research institute led to the country’s first major sexual-health study of bi+ people, now shaping national policy. Sometimes advocacy begins with courage and a question.

Steven carries that same spirit into dating, community work, and the gym. Bodybuilding became a place to rebuild the self that shame tried to fracture. Weight by weight, rep by rep, his body became both sanctuary and declaration: I am here. I am whole. I am unafraid.

For young bi+ men watching him—especially those navigating fear, stigma, or the loneliness of feeling “too much” and “not enough” at the same time—Steven offers this message:

“I’m so bloody proud of you. You are bi enough. You are queer enough. And your community already has your card printed.”

Listen to the full episode to hear Steven reflect on resilience, HIV education, the beauty of bi+ community, and why he believes bisexual people are “from the future.”